apparently experiencing and healing from a
broken relationship makes us more compassionate about
another person's pain.

emotional pain doesnt kill(:
its what you do to avoid that pain, that might kill YOU!

deal with the pain of the old relationship before entering a new one.
which is what i did, 4 years ago.
i took all e time i needed(:
however it did have its side effects.
i defnitely do not see certain things e same way as i used to
and its pretty redundant to go in depth and
talk abt it.hahaha.

and so, at first you date.
everything seems so pretty and lovely
and then you enter another phase of dating,
serious dating?
slowly he starts entering your life,
and then when you say yes,
THATS E END.
he enters your life and starts being e captain in your life.
which definitely does not apply to everyone.
and i am not generalising or being negative abt it,
there will defnitely be others who wont do that.

HOWEVER, what i am coming at is,
all of that, is normal.
and in fact, the person defnitely should have a say in your life
and there should eb compromise, communication etc.
as much as i may have made it seem like he'd rule your entire life,
when i said captain, its not that extreme.
and i am lazy to continue this point.
you should get it.

AND if you are not ready to do all of it,
DONT.

i have been thinking lately more than usual
about the choices i have made in life
and should be making
and will be making.

e last time i re-evaluated my life was after the whole stupid, dramatic 2006 i had.
and i guess its time for a re-evaluation of the re-evaluation.

i do know how i am talking quite abit of nonsense that
will never make sense to anyone else but myself
hahhahaa(:

someone once said
"if you truly love someone, set them free.
if they come back to you, they are for keeps
but if they dont, it means it was never yours to begin with"

i've heard this saying a couple of time in my life.
first from my mum, then OJW and etc.
and i truly believe in it.be it when applying to people,
or things.