You could be feeling like you're
in the grip of a whole bunch of really selfish impulses.
Maybe you are.
The question is, is this a bad thing?

The answer could be: Not entirely.
Sometimes you need to take care of your own issues
before you can help anybody else.
On the other hand, out-and-out selfishness is not optimal.
So take a closer look.

Where are you just taking care of your own, legitimate, important needs?
Those are places where you aren't being selfish: You're being responsible.

in conclusion, he is probably mistaken and naive.
for once, someone more naive than i am.
i am not selfish.

i dont like people altering my plans and telling me what to do.
if thats how a relationship should be, then i'm not ready for one.